Johnny was a Boy
Scout, and he was required to do a good deed every day. He was also expected to
be home every afternoon by 4:00. One day it got to be 4:30, 5:00, 5:30, 6:00.
Finally at 6:30 Johnny walked in the door. Parents upset. “What took you so
long?” “I was helping a little old lady cross the street.” “2-1/2 hours late?” “She didn’t want to go!”
Our culture is
civilized, right? To “civilize” is to bring a place or people to a stage of
social, cultural, and moral development that is more advanced. It is to
enlighten, improve, refine, and cultivate. “Civility” refers to courtesy,
manners, and politeness in behavior and speech. So, what happened to it? Why is
our world so crude and rude? And what can we do about it?
What is Civility?
To “civilize” is to
bring a place or people to a more advanced stage of social, cultural, and moral
development. It is to enlighten, improve, refine, and cultivate. “Civility”
refers to courtesy, manners, and politeness in behavior and speech.
Civil – from French
and Latin for “citizen.”
Civics – study of
citizens’ rights and duties.
Civil War – sounds like an oxymoron! It's a war
between civilians.
civilize (v.) c. 1600, “to bring
out of barbarism, introduce order and civil organization among, refine and
enlighten,” from French civiliser, verb from Old French civil (adj.),
from Latin civilis ”relating to a citizen, relating to public
life, befitting a citizen; popular, affable, courteous,” alternative adjectival
derivative of civis ”townsman” (see city).
Intransitive meaning “become civilized” is from 1868.
Last week – Syracuse
University permanently expelled the Theta Tau fraternity after footage emerged
earlier this week of its members participating in a racist, sexist, homophobic, and anti-Semitic skit,
Chancellor Kent Syverud said.
The Daily Orange, an independent student
newspaper, obtained and posted a video in which a fraternity member makes
another one swear to hold onto hatred for African-Americans, Hispanics and
Jews, using racial slurs for those groups. Later, another student, using a
derogatory word for Jews, makes a veiled reference to gas chambers in Nazi
Germany. In the video the students also exposed themselves to each other and
posed in immoral positions.
What is Theta Tau, you ask? From their website,
thetatau.org: “Theta Tau is the nation’s foremost Fraternity for
Engineers! ... Our mission is to develop ENGINEERING LEADERS for Service,
Profession, and Brotherhood. The fellowship, academic support and personal
growth our Brothers find in Theta Tau make all the difference in
their personal and professional success.”
Bad enough that such
events occur. Even worse that they are planned, promoted, and taught. And
enjoyed.
The secular world’s
answer? Answer? Expose them! Censor them! Expel them! Monitor all fraternities!
Threaten them! Make them behave!
Make more laws!
Outlaw more words! Put everyone in diversity classes, anger management classes,
and tolerance classes!
The secular world
treats the symptoms but fails
to address the cause of such
conduct.
Our US President,
with his famous tweets, repeatedly uses terms and phrases that many think lack
civility. As one of the more tame examples, he recently used the word “slimeball”
to refer to the former head of a federal agency. The slurs and insults go back
and forth between the highest officials in our land, not two different from the
behavior of rude boys in a schoolyard.
What Difference Does Civility Make?
Contrast: Judges vs.
Ruth (same era)
Judges: Chaos Without a King
Ruth: Life Under God’s
Rule
Ru 2:4 … Boaz said to the
reapers, “The LORD be with you!” And they: “The LORD bless you.”
Ru 2:8-10 Then Boaz said to
Ruth …
Note this article,
not even based specifically on biblical teaching, about the difference that
civility makes in the workplace.
Why Civility Matters
in the First Place - Sharone Bar-David
Consider the game of
curling, where a stone has to make its way safely into a target area over a
sheet of smooth ice. Two team members sweep the ice to allow the
stone to move smoothly to its destination.
Civility is the
smooth ice that enables people to perform at their best, leading to best
results for the team, the organization, and those who it serves. (If you’re a
manager, think of yourself as the sweeper whose job it is to ensure the
path is clear.)
Here are some of the
ways—a partial list—that civility supports organizational and team success:
1.
Performance. People who are treated with respect
are able to focus. Their mind is not bogged down by worry, their brain is not
flooded with memory-impeding stress hormones, and their time is not spent on
second-guessing whether or not the uncivil person intended to belittle or
dismiss them. With focus, they perform at their best.
2.
Trust and teamwork. Respectful relationships yield
trust, and trust in return makes people support each other, collaborate, hold
themselves and one another accountable, be flexible, lend a helping hand, deal
effectively with interpersonal problems, and work together toward shared goals.
3.
Customer service. The focus, trust and teamwork that
civility brings about result in effective, smooth and cheerful service.
4.
Engagement and retention. Employees who
feel that the organization treats them with respect and that its managers are
actively ensuring that everyone is dealt with in a civil manner are highly
invested in the success of the enterprise. They are less likely to depart
prematurely.
5.
Innovation. Innovation relies on people’s sense of
safety and trust. A civil work environment creates a milieu where new (and
possibly unconventional) ideas can be shared and explored without fear.
6.
Health and safety. A civil work environment is a
psychologically safe one. In a world of ever-growing rates of mental health
illness on the job, a civil environment prevents the triggering or exacerbation
of mental health problems (and the associated high levels of absenteeism and
benefits costs). Furthermore, focused and calm employees are much less likely
to engage in hazardous behaviour or be involved in workplace accidents.
The advantages of
upholding a civil work environment are almost common sense. And yet—have you
noticed?—incivility continues to exist uninterrupted in most organizations.
What Happened to Civility?
2 Ti 3:1 (ESV) … in the last
days … times of difficulty. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers
of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful,
unholy, 3 heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control,
brutal, not loving good, 4 treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit,
lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God …
What are the Principles of Civility?
It begins with God.
Mk 12:28ff; Jas 3:9-12
It is patient, kind,
not arrogant or rude. 1 Co 13
It builds up; it
does not tear down. Eph 4:29ff
It respects others’
hearts and space.
It chooses to rise
above. Mt 5:38-48
It begins in the
home. Eph 5:22-6:4
It must prevail in
the church. Gal 5:13-26
It says “Please,”
“Yes, sir,” and “Thank you.”
It is evident – or
not! – on social media, TV, etc.
It can transform all
who practice / receive it.
It can impact the
world and workplace. Col 3:23
It can open the door
for the gospel. Col 4:2-6
How Can We Maintain Civility?
2 Ti 3:10 (ESV) You, however,
have followed my teaching, my conduct, my aim in life, my faith, my patience,
my love, my steadfastness, 11 my persecutions and sufferings that happened
to me at Antioch, at Iconium, and at Lystra—which persecutions I endured; yet
from them all the Lord rescued me.
Civility – Choose it! Teach it! Live it!
Let Me be a Little Kinder, Less of Me
Songwriters: Glen
Campbell
Glen Campbell, Roger
Miller, Statler Brothers, Oak Ridge Boys
Let me be a little
kinder
Let me be a little blinder
To the faults of those about me
Let me praise a little more
Let me be a little blinder
To the faults of those about me
Let me praise a little more
Let me be when I am
weary
Just a little bit more cheery
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me
Just a little bit more cheery
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me
Let me be a little
braver
When temptation bids me waver
Let me strive a little harder
To be all that I should be
When temptation bids me waver
Let me strive a little harder
To be all that I should be
Let me be a little
meeker
With the brother that is weaker
Let me think more of my neighbor
And a little less of me
With the brother that is weaker
Let me think more of my neighbor
And a little less of me
Let me be when I am
weary
Just a little bit more cheery
Let me serve a little better
Those that I am strivin’ for
Just a little bit more cheery
Let me serve a little better
Those that I am strivin’ for
Let me be a little
meeker
With the brother that is weaker
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me
With the brother that is weaker
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me
Try a Little Kindness - Tim Surrett
Songwriters: Bobby
Austin / Curt Sapaugh
If you see your
brother standing by the road
With a heavy load from the seeds he’s sowed
And if you see your sister falling by the way
Just stop and say, you’re going the wrong way
With a heavy load from the seeds he’s sowed
And if you see your sister falling by the way
Just stop and say, you’re going the wrong way
You got to try a
little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
Don’t walk around
the down and out
Lend a helping hand instead of doubt
And the kindness that you show every day
Will help someone along their way
Lend a helping hand instead of doubt
And the kindness that you show every day
Will help someone along their way
You got to try a
little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
You got to try a little
kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets
Possible hymns:
Angry Words
Prince of Peace,
Control My Will
O To Be Like Thee
Let the Beauty of
Jesus Be Seen in Me
I Want to Be More
Like Jesus
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