Among the most familiar sins recorded in the Scriptures is King David’s adultery with Bathsheba. Why did he do it? How can we learn from his experience and avoid repeating it? The text describes this incident in 2 Samuel 11, and it begins by telling us what and whom David saw.
2 Sa 11:1 Then it happened in the spring,
at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants
with him and all Israel, and they destroyed the sons of Ammon and besieged
Rabbah. But David stayed at Jerusalem. 2 Now when evening came
David arose from his bed and walked around on the roof of the king’s house, and
from the roof he saw a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful in
appearance.
Here’s a start at least. David did not
go out to battle, as kings would typically do. Whatever the reason may be, whether
his laziness, his selfishness, or simply his age, a simple fact remains. If David
had gone to battle, what happened next would not have happened. Think
about how one decision opens the door to multiple consequences. I have often
heard and said, “Decisions determine destiny.”
While our choices do cause
consequences, our choices are also often caused by previous factors. One
of my mentors used to say, “Before something happens, it’s about to happen.” In
other words, before one commits sin with his heart, his eyes, or his hands, one
must recognize and address the things that could precede sin and increase his temptation
to sin.
Romans 13:13-14 tells us, “Let us
behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual
promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. But put on the Lord
Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts.”
“Make no provision for the flesh in
regard to its lusts” implies that we should exercise foresight or forethought
in advance. In a very real sense, David sinned because he had not predetermined
that he would not sin. Likewise, if each Christian man prays and chooses at
the beginning of each day, “Today with God’s help I will not look lustfully at
a woman,” he is making provision (anticipating ahead of time) not to take
advantage of opportunities to sin.
The Christian man says, along with Job,
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin” (Job
31:1)? If David had made such a covenant, think of what would have followed instead
when he first saw what he saw.
David saw a very beautiful woman
bathing while he was walking on the roof of his house. It is true to say that
David sinned because, when he saw Bathsheba, he chose to lust after her, and he
failed to curb his sinful desires.
David’s actions parallel those of Achan
in the days of Joshua that cost Israel the battle at Ai. Achan admitted, “I saw
the forbidden items … I coveted them … I took them … and I hid them” (Josh
7:20-21). Likewise, we read in James 1:14-15, “But each one is tempted when he is
carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it
gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.”
However, to say that David sinned only because of what he saw – a beautiful woman bathing – is only partly correct. Actually, David’s sin also resulted from some things he failed to see from the top of his palace. In fact, if he had paid attention to some undeniable realities, he might have turned his eyes away from Bathsheba.
David had some major blind spots. So do
we, whenever we choose to disobey God. By noting his blind spots, we will be
much more able to deal with our own.
1. First, David did not see the
people’s need for his leadership in the war. As stated above, it was at “the
time when kings go out to battle” (2 Samuel 11:1) that David sent others to war
but stayed home himself. Israel’s army may have won against the Ammonites, but
her king lost his war, because he did not lead. The same is true today. Before
you sin, ask: “How will this action affect my ability to lead and influence
others for the Lord?” “Is my devotion to showing others the way serious enough
that it helps prevent me from losing my way?”
2. David also blinded himself to the
past experiences, failures, and consequences in the lives of others. Since the
beginning of time, David must have known what had become of others, perhaps
many others, each of whom had sinned immorally by committing adultery with
someone else’s wife. They were caught. The woman became pregnant. They were
unable to cover it up. A marriage died. A lifetime of guilt and shame ensued.
David didn’t see, or refused to see, that his experience would be no different.
He failed to learn from those who preceded him. Before you sin, ask: “Who do I
know that took a similar action or made a similar decision, and how did that
work out for them?”
3. In addition, David didn’t recognize
the corrupting, corrosive effect that absolute power can have on a man. He can
begin to think that he is above the law, that he wrote the law, or that he can
ignore the law. David’s authority could have swollen his ego to such an extent
that he was unaware of how far he had fallen already. Before you sin, ask: “Am
I so proud, so narcissistic and self-absorbed, that I believe than I can
disobey God’s rules and treat other people as objects?”
4. David overlooked his good friend,
Uriah the Hittite, who was Bathsheba’s husband. This man was one of David’s
“mighty men,” his most loyal followers (2 Samuel 23:39). When David saw
Bathsheba, he did not see himself deceiving her husband Uriah, getting him
drunk, and having him killed. If he had, he might have denied his own lust and
temporary pleasure. Before you sin, ask: “How will this decision affect my
friends and those who have put their trust in me?” “How will this action
destroy rather than protect the purity and sanctity of my friends’ marriages?”
5. This mighty king failed to see an
innocent baby. The child conceived by David and Bathsheba would die as a part
of David’s punishment (2 Samuel 12:14). If the king had foreseen the baby
suffering with an illness for seven days, the sorrow that David himself would
experience, and the lifetime of guilt that he would carry, he might have
avoided his adulterous encounter. How many sinless babies have been aborted,
their precious lives thrown away, as the result of sexual misconduct? Before
you sin, ask: “How will this choice affect my children and other innocent
people?” “Would I be willing for my young daughter, niece, or granddaughter to
know that I did this?” “Would my son, nephew, or grandson respect me if this
action became known?”
6. David became blind to his loyal
wife, Abigail. This good woman provided for David and kept him from sin, in
spite of her foolish husband Nabal. She became David’s wife after Nabal died.
See 1 Samuel 25. How would David’s choice of another woman affect Abigail?
Apparently he never asked. Before you sin, ask: “How will this conduct affect
my dedicated, God-fearing spouse and my covenant before God to be faithful to
him or her until one of us dies?”
7. King David lost sight of His
children – Tamar, Amnon, and Absalom. Turmoil would characterize David’s
household from this point forward. The sword would never depart from his house
(2 Sam 12:10). David’s son Amnon would assault and violate his own half-sister,
Tamar. Her full-brother Absalom would murder Amnon, become a fugitive, and take
over the throne for a time. These sons carried out the very things recorded in
David’s playbook. David would hear of Absalom’s death and mourn, saying, “Would
that I had died instead!” Before you sin, ask: “How will this behavior affect
the way my children turn out and the long-term direction of future
generations?”
8. David lost sight of his God-given
throne. If David had realized that, because of his immorality, he would forfeit
his anointed position as king and run from his own son, would he have sent for
Bathsheba? Likely not. Before you sin, ask: “How will this deed affect my
calling to serve the Lord in my current position?”
9. At the heart of it all, David did
not see God when he was on the palace roof. He became
blind to God’s authority in his life, God’s righteous wrath toward sin, God’s
broken heart when one rejects His will, and God’s grace, which had blessed and
sustained him from the beginning. Before you sin, ask: “How will this decision
affect my relationship with the Lord? My prayer life? My spiritual peace and
confidence? My eternal salvation?”
What happened to David can happen to
us. Peter wrote by inspiration: “For he who lacks these qualities [of spiritual
growth just mentioned] is blind or short-sighted, having forgotten his
purification from his former sins” (2 Peter 1:9).
It is when
one sees what he wants to see rather than what he ought to see that he either
runs into a wall or falls off of a cliff.
Do you want to be strong and prepared
when temptation arises? Then take some time, go up on your palace
roof, and see the things that David didn’t see from his roof.
When you see what you ought, God will help you to do – and not do – what you
ought.
