Sunday, March 02, 2025

Don’t Just Shine Your Light. AIM It!

It happened to me, and it has likely happened to many of you, too.

If you’ve driven the same car for an extended period of time, your headlight lenses have likely become cloudy and yellowed. They are made from poly-carbonate plastic instead of glass, so they are lighter and less likely to shatter. However, prolonged exposure to ultraviolet (UV) light rays from the sun can cause oxidation.

As a result, the protective coatings applied to the lenses break down, leading to a loss of transparency. As the coating deteriorates, the lens surface becomes rough and discolored, resulting in reduced light output. They suffer due to oxidation from UV exposure, which degrades the protective coating and yellows the plastic. Dirt, grime, and moisture infiltration from damaged seals also contribute to the haze.

Do-it-yourself kits are available, as well as professional restoration services, that can help remove the fog. However, taking my mechanic’s advice, I bought brand-new complete headlight assemblies online that were relatively inexpensive. In addition, they were fairly easy to install, thanks of course to a well-done YouTube video!

“Let there be light!”

I was delighted with my success. I wanted my friends to “see the light” and realize how bright and clear the beams were that were coming from my headlights. Hey, I was “letting my light so shine,” and I was sure that I was ready for night-time driving.

Mt 5:14 “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; 15 nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. 16 “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

I was doing great. Or so I thought.

As I began driving at night, I noticed something that surprised me. The drivers coming toward me, many of them in fact, began flashing their bright lights at me. Why? Well, they weren’t just sending me a friendly "hello," that’s for sure! Could they have been jealous of my shiny new lenses? NOT!

The fact is, they were blinded by one of my lights. My effort to produce a brighter, clearer light actually prevented others from seeing the road they needed. You might say my “shining” light was an “in-your-face” offense that produced a strong resistant reaction. From their standpoint, it would have been better if I had never replaced my old foggy, cloudy headlights. In addition, I couldn't see what I needed to see, either, because one of my "cross-eyed" lights was pointing up toward the sky instead of straight out toward the road.

There were no printed instructions for my new headlight assemblies included in the box. There was nothing – except for those other drivers! – to indicate that they had to be aimed. So I took a closer look, and then I saw it. Each assembly had a small gear with teeth that could be turned with a Phillips-head screwdriver.

I went back to the all-knowing YouTube channel, and I learned how to adjust the lights. There’s a tiny round dot on each lens, and you measure the distance from that mark to the ground. Park the car 25 feet in front of your garage door, and put blue tape at the same height from the ground that you measured previously. Then adjust the lights until they hit that blue tape.

Here's the application. On the one hand, we need to let our light for Christ shine in all directions, like a lighthouse, so that all can see our deeds and glorify the Father. If our light is diminished and limited by our weaknesses or sins, we must restore its shine.

At the same time, there are times at which we must specifically align and point our light. First of all, a focused light helps us see clearly the road ahead, so we can get to where God wants us to be. Second, a focused light will reach others effectively without blinding them and repulsing them. And third, we can aim the light toward those who are most likely to be receptive.

The apostle Paul talked about both ideas. Regarding our shining light, he wrote by inspiration, “For God, who said, ‘Light shall shine out of darkness,’ is the One who has shone in our hearts to give the Light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ (2 Co 4:6).’”

Yet Paul also recognized the importance of aiming the light. When the Jewish crowd in Antioch of Syria would not receive the light, Paul and Barnabas realized that they should focus the gospel light on the Gentiles, who would welcome it. They spoke out boldly and told those Jews, “It was necessary that the word of God be spoken to you first; since you repudiate it and judge yourselves unworthy of eternal life, behold, we are turning to the Gentiles. “For so the Lord has commanded us, ‘I have placed You as a light for the Gentiles, That You may bring salvation to the end of the earth (Ac 13:46-47).’”

So, shine your light, for all the world to see. But also aim it, whenever possible, to guide your own steps and to reach those who want to flee the darkness and be saved!


 

Friday, February 14, 2025

Are You and Your Spouse SOUL Mates … or CELL Mates?


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So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her. Gen 29:20

Though there are many degrees in between, and though marriages may be measured in any number of ways, we may consider it as fact that some husbands and wives are soul mates, while others feel more like cell mates. The former seem to have hearts that beat together; the latter may want to beat each other, physically and/or emotionally. Very happy couples sprint hand in hand. Sad couples drag on, feeling locked in handcuffs by the marriage “bond.”

Virtually every person, when marriage begins, thinks he or she has found a soul mate. All is blissful, peaceful, and rewarding. Yet, ironically, months or years later, the joys have turned to chains. The husband (and/or the wife) feels imprisoned and yearns to breathe free! What happened? What can be done about it? If in your marriage you feel like a cell mate …

  • Remember and renew the earlier, happier days. When you were free, you chose not to stay that way. Why? Tell your spouse, “I chose you because …” “Some of my favorite memories with you are …” “God blessed us when …”
  • Admit the unkind ways you have helped to create the prison. “I have been impatient … unfair … selfish … arrogant.” “I have expected too much, and given too little.” Then, and only then, ask your spouse to take responsibility for his or her part as well.
  • Realize that your spouse may feel trapped as well. Give your cell mate some slack, some gratitude, some support. Decrease his or her misery, and you will ease your own. The more you pull on his or her handcuff, the more your own wrist will ache.
  • Let some fresh air into the cell. Stop arguing for a week, and talk about areas of agreement, especially basic values. Read the Bible together and pray. Talk about faith, hope, and love. Go for a walk. Share a new hobby and a new church ministry.
  • Invite a trusted friend into the cell. An elder or preacher, with his wife, can listen, pray, and offer confidential, godly counsel. So can a trained Christian therapist. Do not be ashamed. Do not deny your struggles. Do not let the devil win.
  • Act like a soul mate first. Be the person that you would want to share a cell with, before you ask your mate to be that person. Allow your spouse time to deal with the shock.
  • Husbands, ask your wives, “How can I love you in the ways that you most want and need to be loved?” Then act on her response. Besides what that will do for her, it will allow you to enjoy the freedom that comes by choosing to love.
  • Wives, ask your husbands, “How can I respect you in the ways that you most want and need to be respected?” Then act on his response. You’ll not only help him stand tall; you’ll likely be amazed at the way he treats you as a result.
  • Become a closer soul mate of Jesus Christ. Let His beauty be seen and reflected in you. He forgives. He encourages. He affirms. His yoke is easy, because He shares and carries the load with you. The more you think, speak, and act like Jesus, the more your spouse will want to be bound to you for life.

Sometimes just the title of a song captures an idea, like “(Happy to Be) Stuck with You,” sung by Huey Lewis & The News. That title combines these two great elements: joy and permanence. They are not contradictory; they belong together.

However, Tanya and I particularly love the lyrics of the song, “Something That We Do,” sung by Clint Black. Here are the words.

I remember well the day we wed, I can see that picture in my head.
I still believe the words we said, forever will ring true.

Love is certain, love is kind, love is yours, and love is mine,
But it isn’t something that we find. It’s something that we do.

It’s holding tight, and letting go. It’s flying high and lying low.
Let your strongest feelings show, and your weakness, too.

It’s a little and a lot to ask, an endless and a welcome task.
Love isn’t something that we have. It’s something that we do.

We help to make each other all that we can be,
Though we could find our strength and inspiration independently.
The way we work together is what sets our love apart,
So closely that we can’t tell where I end and where you start.

It gives me heart remembering how, we started with a simple vow.
There’s so much to look back on now. Still, it feels brand-new.

We’re on a road that has no end, and each day we begin again.
Love’s not just something that we’re in. It’s something that we do.

We help to make each other all that we can be,
Though we could find our strength and inspiration independently.
The way we work together is what sets our love apart,
So closely that we can’t tell where I end and where you start.

Love is wide, love is long, love is deep, and love is strong.
Love is why I love this song. I hope you love it, too.

I remember well the day we wed. I can see that picture in my head.
Love isn’t just those words we said. It’s something that we do.

There’s no request too big or small. We give ourselves; we give our all.
Love isn’t someplace that we fall. It’s something that we do.

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If you feel like cell mates, but you want to feel like soul mates, you probably already know where the keys are. Use them and enjoy the results!